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Sex/Sexuality

Reem’s Podcast With a Gay Sudanese Blogger

by Drima on February 8, 2010

Reem over at Mideast Youth has just published the first post in a series that I think is going to be groundbreaking. The only times I’ve come across the subject of homosexuality in Sudan being discussed openly were in research-related work on AIDS.

So, I think this podcast is a big deal for sure.

The blogger being interviewed is Ali aka Black Gay Arab, whom many of you already know thanks to the time I blogged about him here and here.

Kudos to Reem for doing this, because we do need an open conversation about the subject, something which is already starting to happen across the Arab world.

Let the fun begin. The reactions should be entertaining to watch.

Meanwhile, on a related note, I wrote about what seems to be Sudan’s first LGBT rights organization here in my latest GVO round up post.

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TV Debate On “Boom Boom” Education In Arab Schools – HILARIOUS! Must-Watch Video :)

by Drima on October 14, 2009

This  is too damn funny! If you understand Arabic, you’re gonna laugh your ass. If you don’t, read the translations, and you’re still going to laugh your ass off.

Don’t you just love these clowns? :)

That Al-Azhar scholar (the same Al-Azhar Obama spoke at and praised) belongs in an episode of… taraaa… The Holy Room!

Seriously though, the paranoia on this one is staggering. Although, I’m glad this debate is gaining more and more momentum so that the Arab public can get more informed, and hopefully reform the current education system in regards to that important issue.

But beware, most of za bearded ones will fight! Especially in za wahhabi kingdom.

If we have za sexi education, za arab worrrlid iz eegoing to be bigger immorality, and zat is a big broblim.

BROBLIM I TELL YOU!

Za youngi boyz and girrrlz will be, erm, you know, sorry, zat iz dirty word, but you know what zey weel do?

HARAM!

No, no, we musti fight za zionist sexi shops.

LOL.

Yay to baby-making factories!

Let’s have more. LOL. :D

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The “Fun” Highlights of Recent Weeks

by Drima on July 17, 2009

Gosh, where do I even start. Lots of fun stuff happened in the last few recent days and weeks. Work, while still enjoyable, has piled up, and updates have slowed down. But that aside though, let’s look at the real fun that took place recently.

1. Sudanese Women Flogged for So-Called Indecent Clothing

Oh, how wonderful. Let’s see...

Lubna Hussein, a journalist and a public information officer at the UN Mission in Sudan (UNMIS) was one of nine girls taken by the Public Order Police (POP) on Sunday from a ballroom in an area east of Khartoum.

Poor Lubna. The POP idiots won’t leave her alone.

… The arrests took place under the Criminal Penal Code which states that anyone wearing “grossly clothing” shall be punished with no more than 40 lashes or a fine or both.

Grossly clothing? What the hell is that even supposed to mean? What qualifies as grossly? Because seriously, those POP boys can probably get erections merely by looking at goats! That Penal Code needs to get revised, yesterday.

The Sudanese journalist said that the application of this section of the criminal penal code is damaging to a girl’s reputation in the Sudanese society.

Maybe it’s about time we cut the bullshit obsession with honor, reputation, and gossip.

Unfortunately, it is mostly true. A lot of things about life in Sudan are centered around honor and reputation, as if they’re holier than Islam itself.

Anyways, moving on, before those medieval horny POP monkeys make my head pop.

2. Stabbed 18 Times for Being Muslim Inside… a Courtroom

I can’t believe I missed this one. I only found out about it from a Facebook Group invite.

Stabbed 18 times inside a damn courtroom, can you believe that?

CAIRO — Thousands of Egyptian mourners marched behind the coffin of the “martyr of the head scarf” on Monday _ a pregnant Muslim woman who was stabbed to death in a German courtroom as her young son watched.

… Her husband was critically wounded in the attack Wednesday in Dresden when he tried to intervene and was stabbed by the attacker and accidentally shot by court security.

Nice work, court security. Maybe you should all get fired. Incompetent retards.

… Al-Sherbini, who was about four months pregnant and wore the Islamic head scarf, was involved in a court case against her neighbor for calling her a terrorist and was set to testify against him when he stabbed her 18 times inside the courtroom in front of her 3-year-old son.

I hope that poor kid grows up to be normal and recovers from this deeply tragic event. Nobody should ever have to go through stuff like this.

Oh, and I think this part is spot on.

… Egyptian commentators said the incident was an example of how hate crimes against Muslims are overlooked in comparison to those committed by Muslims against Westerners. Many commentators pointed to the uproar that followed the 2004 murder of filmmaker Theo van Gogh by a Dutch-born Islamic fundamentalist angry over one of his films criticizing the treatment of Muslim women.

Very true. Where on earth is the outrage over this on CNN? Where are the typical repeated reports with the big headlines?

This is beyond sickening.

But at least this part is positive:

Officials from a German Muslim group and the country’s main Jewish group made a joint visit Monday to the Dresden hospital where the victim’s husband is being treated.

“You don’t have to be a Muslim to act against anti-Muslim behavior, and you don’t have to be a Jew to act against anti-Semitism,” said Stephan Kramer, the general secretary of the Central Council of Jews.

Oh well, RIP.

3. Jakarta Bombings

Here we go again. I thought Obama is president now and he’s pulling US troops out of Iraq? Right, like that’s going to work. Eh, this is probably about local Indonesian politics.

Guess it’s time for me to watch a comedy movie or something. Maybe a Reason Vs Faith YouTube debate.

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The Pope Is Totally Loving Condoms (Update: The Vatican Responds)

by Drima on April 15, 2009

So, you’ve probably already heard about the Pope’s recent trip to Africa where he expressed his awesome wisdom on the effectiveness of the lubricated super elastic XXXXXL condoms he found on the continent in the fight against AIDS. It looks like he’s loving them big time.

He’s completely supportive too.

And did I already mention the condoms there were XXXXXL? Did I? No, really did I? :P

Bet he’s also gonna like this video a lot.

Dear boys reading this blog post right now, (especially those of you in Africa), stay safe.

Use condoms when you wanna get down with the boom boom.

Although, if you think about it, once oral sex enters the equation (and it usually does), then condoms ain’t really all that effective anymore, right?

Crap, the Pope might be right about those slimy things after all. Who knew?

What do YOU think?

WARNING: Only the boys in da house can answer. Girls, the sexist chauvinist Drima says you’re not welcome. Okay, kidding. He loves you all. So, what do you all think? :)

UPDATE: Looks like the Vatican isn’t happy about reactions criticizing the Pope’s irresponsible remarks on condoms.

In a strongly worded statement, the Vatican defended the pope’s view that condoms aren’t the answer to Africa’s AIDS epidemic and could make it worse. On his way to Africa last month, he said the best strategy is the church’s effort to promote sexual responsibility through abstinence and monogamy.

Way to go Mr. Pope.

… The Roman Catholic Church opposes the use of condoms as part of its overall teaching against contraception. It advocates sexual abstinence and sexual faithfulness between husband and wife as the best ways to combat the spread of HIV.

I say discard the ludicrous teachings on condoms and contraception.

Enough of this destructive religious dogmatism please. As for sexual faithfulness between husband and wife, thumbs up. I’m also in favor of lifestyles that reduce the risk of infection and don’t involve random multiple sex partners.

Still though, take the teachings on sexual faithfulness and random partners, and combine them with encouraging condom use.

Anyway, it’s funny how a person who doesn’t even have sex is supposed to know so much about it, let alone preach about it.

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13 Year Old Somali Victim of Rape Stoned to Death by al-Qaeda’s Cute Friends (Post Updated)

by Drima on November 3, 2008

Warms up your heart, doesn’t it?

MOGADISHU, Somalia – A 13-year-old girl who said she had been raped was stoned to death in Somalia after being accused of adultery by Islamic militants, a human rights group said.

Dozens of men stoned Aisha Ibrahim Duhulow to death Oct. 27 in a stadium packed with 1,000 spectators in the southern port city of Kismayo, Amnesty International and Somali media reported, citing witnesses.

To all those idiots out there supporting al-Qaeda, this is the kind of shit you’re going to end up with if they ever get to rule your neighborhood.

I understand you may have your own “kinder” interpretation of Sharia, but the kind featured above is precisely what they’ll be busy shoving down our throats. I’m sure you’d love to see your daughters or sisters go through similar “holy” trials if they too get raped and can’t produce four witnesses to confirm that the crime took place, right?

Disgusting.

For the zillionth time, Sharia is NOT holy, and never will be. I speak in practical terms, because Sharia’s enforcement requires an initial interpretation of religious scriptures – both activities ultimately being the product of fallible humans, people just like you and me.

So please dear Muslims, don’t fear criticizing Sharia. Go ahead. Feel free to tear it apart where appropriate if you wish to do so, and if anyone pushes the “hey, how dare you criticize God’s law?” argument in your face, you know what to do.

Even God’s laws or so-called laws require interpretation, something which is inevitably exercised by imperfect, fallible bearded men (rarely women in case you haven’t noticed), many of whom are just power-hungry morons who hide behind a veil of piety to shield themselves from criticism.

Cool?

Now excuse me while I go and continue puking.

UPDATE: There are a number of legitimate questions from fellow (albeit traditionalist) Muslims which have popped up in the comments section. While I responded in a comment, I thought it would be better if I added it here in the post to make it more visible.

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I’m Loving Marwa Rakha

by Drima on June 14, 2008

She’s been blogging for a while now over at GV and I’m totally digging her writing which focuses on many of the retarded things and blatant double standards in our patriarchal culture. Check out what she has to say here and here. Oh and don’t miss this post about her revealing, unpleasant “encounter” with a popular Muslim televangelist.

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Rape Has Nothing To Do With How Women Dress

by Drima on June 2, 2008

Good response to an absolutely disgusting statement. I hope this idiot is paying attention.

(hat-tip: Muslimah Media Watch)

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Banned Condom Commercial

by Drima on May 19, 2008

LOL! This is sooo funny! :)

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Sudan’s Religious Leaders Campaign In Favour of People Living With HIV/AIDS

by Drima on February 27, 2008

(JPEG)This is great news!

February 25, 2008 (KHARTOUM) — Religious leaders and specialists gathered in a two day workshop last week to finalize a training curriculum to build the capacity of religious leaders in responding to HIV/AIDS in Sudan.

Over 50 key religious leaders from both the Christian and Muslim faiths joined together to fully endorse the first training curriculum. This module focuses on enabling religious figures to promote spiritual values of care and compassion for People Living with HIV/AIDS.

Sweet. Thumbs up for these people. Apparently, we’re number one in the Arab world in terms of HIV/AIDS infections and number three in terms of drug addiction. So yeah, this is pretty lovely. And I love the fact that it’s bringing together both Christians and Muslims to fight for a common cause.

Related:

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Gay Africans and Arabs Come Out Online

by Drima on February 22, 2008

Andrew Heavens has written a superb piece on Arab and African gay bloggers. It mentions fellow Sudanese blogger Ali who is gay and tells the story of my post‘s aftermath.

I believe that the coming out of Arab and African gays online is a good thing. It’s a wake up call to all the naive ones out there who think such people don’t exist amongst them. Plus, it’s extremely interesting reading their thoughts. Say hello to the real world.

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Islam and Sexuality: “The Perfumed Garden” and Our Present Reality

by Drima on January 29, 2008

I regularly come across too many Sudanese and Muslims who aren’t comfortable talking about sex. To them I say, chill out and stop being so uptight. I can imagine them cursing me inside their heads right now. “How dare this idiotic retard put the ‘s’ word near that other holy word!”

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Sexy Videos of Hot, Sexy, Sexed Up, Sudanese Sex

by Drima on January 25, 2008

Dear reader,

Let me guess. You found this post after searching “sudanese sex” most probably on either Yahoo or Google right?. It’s okay, don’t be shy. I’ve been getting many hits from people just like you over the past few months. They all arrive here with the same frame of mind expecting to find the same “freaky” things.

Surprise, you’re not alone! And yup, it’s true. Sorry to disappoint you. You won’t find any porn around here BUT… I may actually have something better.

Advice.

  • Get a hobby
  • Join a gym
  • Go for a jog
  • Smoke some shisha
  • Plant a tree
  • Cut your toe nails
  • Or just do something useful damn it!

Cool? Now buzz off. This blog is a porn-free zone. :P

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“Freedom” from “Freedom”

by Drima on December 13, 2007

I’ll call it “photo of the day”. I found it at Miss Egyptiana’s blog. It displays a very comfortable coexistence between the secular and religious. There is the big umbrella of freedom under which exists mini-”freedoms”. Think about it.

You’ll find other pieces of art bearing strong similarities here, here and here.

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Sudan’s Sex and Beauty Secret

by Drima on December 11, 2007

Read all about it here.

Don’t ask me Sandmonkey. I’ve never dated a Sudanese girl before and even if I did, I’d be crazy to pick one who’ll sit over a burning hole for a whole hour just to make me go “ding dong”. :)

This is an update to clarify some certain points brought up by commenters.

Damn you people! Stop harassing me! :P

Dalu, you asked “why haven’t you ever dated a Sudanese girl?” and Rara Avis, you then added “stop acting all non-sudanese Drima!”

I spent my childhood in Sudan and Qatar. Some of my best friends were Sudanese girls. Since I was a little kid back then, I obviously didn’t date because the thought never popped into my head. Duh! Like I said, I was just a child.

My adult life was spent here in Southeast Asia where there is a huge lack of Sudanese girls, let alone a lack of nice ones. Hence the simple reason I’ve never dated any of “you” my dear Sudanese queens and angels isn’t because I hate “you” but rather because it’s so damn hard finding decent “yous” where I live at the moment. It’s tough out here I tell ya, it’s very tough! :(

Dear Amru, I hit a nerve didn’t I? :)

Bro, just because dukhan is a Sudanese tradition, doesn’t mean I have to like it. I don’t! It’s my own personal taste. I hate the smell of the damn thing. I love Sudanese henna though. I even blogged about it before.

Sexy henna designs make me drool. My future wife, whether Sudanese or not, better get it every once in a while or else I’m divorcing her. :P

Bakhoor* is another thing I like. Like dukhan it’s a Sudanese tradition but hey guess what? I know many Sudanese people who hate its smell or get migraines because of it. Does that make them “unbalanced”?

You also mentioned this:

… dukhan is a practice that pre-dates the times of the Kush Kingdom in Nubia. Its main purpose is to act just like perfume or body lotion and for some it’s used to accent the skin tone or to help in the removal of ‘stretch-marks’ on a woman’s skin.

It would be a lie to say that it does not sexually appeal to men but so do many body lotions and perfumes but that is not all what dukhan is about. To be honest this article is the most unprofessional editorial that I have ever read

Oh please! Come on Amru. Why aren’t you mentioning anything about the ehm tightening properties? Either you’re being naive or you’re purposely avoiding that point.

Yes, it’s true. Dukhan does indeed change the tone of a woman’s skin and do what you mentioned. It gives off a scent which many (but not all) Sudanese men find appealing too.

I found out about the ehm tightening effects (God, I hate that phrase now) of dukhan about a year ago when I was chilling with older Sudanese guys some of whom were married. Of all the effects it produces, guess which one they focused on and got excited by the most?

The article isn’t ill-conceived my friend. Personally I find it daring and rather alright. It does however focus on presenting the two extremes. On one side you’ve got men celebrating the tightening aspects and others on the opposite side calling the practice ignorant. I guess you stand somewhere in the middle.

Kawther, welcome to the club. That was my exact reaction when I found out about Dukhan’s “hidden truth”.

* Bakhoor is a special scented type of wood placed burned in small amounts mostly in Sudanese homes for different reasons by different people. It also gets burned a lot during special occasions like Eid and weddings.

Some believe burning it scares away the evil spirits. Others (like me) burn it simply because the scent is wonderful and creates a festive atmosphere.

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Vagina Doctors

by Drima on November 17, 2007

… and why Ms. Dalu is not really a fan:

this reminds me of my first time at the gynecologist (which I refer to as the “Vagina doctor”) I was all kinds of nervous and flippin’ out because I had forgotten to request a female doctor and was totally taken back when I walked in and some dude was sitting there. To calm down my nerves he had said “Don’t worry, I literally look at thousands of these a year, now they are just flaps of skin with gapping holes” I was like WTF, but surprisingly, this very crude remark by him had calmed me down significantly.

… I had then decided that I will never marry a gynecologist.

Because my vagina is more than just flaps of skin with a gapping hole damnit.

Hehehe, I’m still laughing! :D

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